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steps on the path of self-discovery

Find Your Center

Before you are ready to move ahead with your life, you have to get your current situation under control. Relationships, job, money, spiritual fulfillment, they all factor into your future plans. Set your intentions and plans now. Build a better life.


We might search for a relationship to fulfill our dreams before understanding how to live those dreams ourselves. "How can I love somebody else, when I don't even love myself." Love yourself before seeking be loved.

Empowered Parenting

Being a parent is one of the most sacred roles you can have. Don't miss the opportunity to be the best parent you can be, even if you are divorced, even if you don't live in the same city. Learn how to be a better parent, We are here to help.

Inspiration & Hope

We need to take time out for ourselves. Here are some ideas around mindfulness, meditation, yoga, walks in nature, and other ways of recharging your batteries everyday. Being healthy frees our energy to help others.

Writing that examines the heart

The whole parent

The Whole Parent blog has been serving parents since 2015 with touching,
heart-led stories from a man re-examining his life. As divorce shattered John’s family in 2010, he learned to let love guide his actions, again and again.
From loss and depression, to recovery and dating again, come tag along
at the Whole Parent blog as the adventure continues.

Dating again

I don’t like being alone. I like sleeping next to someone, loving someone each morning, finding new things to love each day. I crave this connection a little too much and I know that’s a bad thing. > Continued at The Whole Parent

My Dark days

I have suffered from depression from time to time. Recently the catalyst has been my divorce. It’s an odd thing, depression, one day we’re feeling happy and content, the next day, due to changes in our chemistry, we’re feeling overwhelmed. Read the Dark Days material on
The Whole Parent.

Positive divorce

There are plenty of opportunities to get mad, get vindictive, get even, especially if the divorce was not your idea. But the higher road is to rise above the blame and anger of the divorce, and to think about your kids. Read The Positive Divorce posts on The Whole Parent.

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“I’m not afraid to be deep in the feelings, in fact I may be too much in it, personally.
In the past, I have let things get me down more than they should. I don't think I'm a typical male.
People seem to respond to the honest expression of emotions, even coming from a man.”
John McElhenney - Choosing the Positive
Speaker, Author, Coach, Single-Dad
“Thank you for writing with so much honesty and genuineness. You have managed to give clarity to feelings I’ve had.”
Jeannine Grego
“I just read your Huffington Post blog, Durable Love: Forgiving Your Ex and I really appreciated what you wrote. I was in a similar position except my ex cheated on me. Even though I was ready to forgive and move on (but that was rejected). I came a tough road away from anger, hate and betrayal to the first steps of healing, maybe someday forgiveness. Thank you! There is a light.”
Brad St. Germaine
“So very refreshing to see that there are single dads out there who have this authentic, genuine, and mature perspective!”
"I wanted to share with you how much I appreciate your honesty in life just as it right now. It has influenced me and my life through divorce. Given me hope and kept me thinking in the positive. Even in the darkest times, I will read something you have written that reminds me to stay positive and all will end up fine."